Pet Refuge: A childhood of fear - domestic violence survivor recalls animal abuse
This week, as part of a three-day series, we announced the launch of our first pet sanctuary, a service that will remove this barrier for women seeking to get rid of domestic violence.
Today, we learn from a man about his violent upbringing and pet abuse.
Trigger Warning: The following account contains a description of domestic violence.
The script is too familiar.
I played the role of abusing my husband and father in a movie about a pet sanctuary, a pet sanctuary where their owners can escape domestic violence.
It definitely reminds me of a part of my childhood.
A lot of my memories are fading.
Partly because of time, partly because the brain is trying to push away things that are a bit hard to handle.
My mother\'s boyfriend is a very violent person.
Where will anger come from.
You will suddenly realize that something bad is happening.
Someone threw something and someone was hit.
Once, in elementary school, I got some correction in my fixed account.
I took it home and he was angry that I spent money because we didn\'t have much money.
He said I was stupid.
He said I don\'t need it. I shouldn\'t make mistakes.
Then he picked it up and threw it on my forehead.
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He used to wear steel. capped boots -
He likes to keep playing-
He will use these on dogs.
I remember he hit a head with a hammer.
He will make them thick, encourage them to be aggressive, and teach our children to pack a jumper on our arms so the dog can bite it.
He ran away with my cat.
He just put it on the side of the road and told me to find it.
I have to take it home, dig a hole and bury it.
It rained heavily and I held the cat in my arms, tears streaming down my face, completely soaking wet.
I remember being depressed and feeling lonely.
Then his dog attacked his mother.
I remember its face clearly and got dirty in all the battles.
Because the vet bill was so expensive, he ended up shooting it on his head.
I wonder if this leads to a tipping point.
He always told my mom that he would kill everyone around her if she wanted to take his son (
But soon after, we fled to a shelter for women.
I don\'t know what happened to his dog.
As far as I know it was left in the kennel waiting for someone to feed him and love him.
It takes a long time for fear to disappear.
I need to defend myself if he comes back and I will sleep in the toy nunchuc under the pillow.
A consultant told me with tears that everything I experienced was not normal.
I was surprised.
It\'s hard to hear that everything I go through shouldn\'t happen to me.
Because my childhood never came back.
I have been worried for years that I will become as violent and angry as he is.
I\'m afraid I\'m pre-
Determined to enter that cycle.
One day I realized it was not in my heart.
I have always been gentle and kind.
I hope I can go back and reassure the young that things will be fine.
It would be a very good thing if I could help others see that they can experience terrible abuse and find happiness in life.
I know it took my mom many years to plan to run away.
If there is a shelter she can send her dog to for a while, I know it will be part of the plan.
Maybe her dog could have been rescued before it was too late.
I know many other families want to take refuge with pets.
Abuse is not limited to people at home, I believe there are a lot of animals that will be happier if taken out and loved, when their owners find a safe place to live.
New Zealand is building the first shelter dedicated to providing shelter for pets affected by domestic violence.
The pet sanctuary will provide a temporary safe shelter for pets, and the owner of the pet can escape abuse.
We need your help.
If you are in danger now: call 111 of the police or ask a friend\'s neighbor to call you.
Go outside and have other people.
Ask for help out loud so your neighbors can hear you.
Take the children together.
Don\'t stop to get something else.
If you are abused, remember it\'s not your fault.
Where violence will never be allowed to go for help or more: shelter for women: Operation of the free national crisis hotline 24/7-
0800 asylum or 0800 733 843 www. womensrefuge. org.
Pet reserve New Zealand. org.
New Zealand Shine, free national helpline nine o\'clock A. M-
Every day eleven o\'clock P. M.
0508 744 633 www. 2shine. org.
Shakshakti: professional and cultural services for women and their children in Africa, Asia and the Middle East.
Crisis Hotline 24/7 0800 742 584-uncertainty: information 0800 456 450 www. areyouok. org.